I notice many people with a phone attached to their ear as they are walking down the street. Cell phone usage in stores, on mass transit, in cars, and many people who keep their blackberry on, even when they sleep, are all indicators that we are definitely losing the big picture. I often see the same woman walking for exercise, and every time she is talking on her phone. Children of all ages are sending text messages all day long and playing on the computer a good portion of the evening.
“What is the best way to spark changes in a relationship, be it a marriage, friendship, or parent/child?” The very best way is to “see” the change. Pivot your viewpoint and see only joy, love and contentment. View the relationship exactly as you would like it to be—as if it is already happening.