“Becky, I am wondering about my cat. She’s an outdoor cat, wild, but very tame with me. I have to take her for a hysterectomy because my apartment complex will dispose of any non-nuetered cats on the premises. She trusts me and loves me. I cannot bear to think about the fear she will have when I trick her into a cage. But if she has kittens, they will dispose of them and her, too.” Your cat is sitting still, licking her paws, feeling the contentedness of your guidance. She is tired, a bit stressed and longing for you to help her now.
I’m writing from a vantage point far from my usual position of repose. It’s a time of reflection, and yet a bit of silent screaming is finding a way into the crevices of a glued-together outer shell. Ouch, that doesn’t feel very good. Transitions can stretch us until we feel almost broken as we pretend to shake our leg free from the grip of something we can’t quite put words around. But even when facing the pain of a situation, a jovial thought can sneak in that shows us our ability to handle anything. My thought at the time of this writing just happened to be Gumby in all his green, rubbery glory. Gumby has one leg pinched and stretched too far to be comfortable. Not good. But then a slow smile crept onto my face as I remembered that I can bend him, pull him into shape and smooth out his distress.
“My 4 year old daughter is very smart and creative, but sometimes has trouble focusing and following rules in preschool and at home. We haven’t yet found her niche, or what she really loves to do. How do we encourage her intuitiveness and creativity while still making sure she succeeds in school and other social situations?” The first thing to understand is that your daughter is young enough to be very connected to the other side. While she may not have the words to communicate this, nonetheless she has a foothold in both places. This is a wonderful, imaginative time indeed!